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Fitting Forty: “I Do”

Hi there guys!

I have not posted in a while because I am finishing up my book concerning my weight loss journey. Thank you for being patient. I will have a new post coming out this week so be on the look out!

This post is actually a dear friend and sister of mine named Sabrina. She is my yoga instructor here in Chicago and a very wise human! I am super grateful to be considered part of her village! She recently informed me about waistbeads. In my next blog post, I will be giving a personal experience concerning my waistbeads but I want to share her words first. Please enjoy!

“I Do” – Incorporating Ritual and Ceremony with Waistbeads by Sabrina Ewell

It is tradition in many cultures around the world to celebrate rites of passages through ceremonies and rituals. Ceremonies are the designated occasions where observances and procedures are performed, while rituals are the symbolic actions performed (which often include gestures, words, and objects) during such ceremonies. Ceremonies can be religious, spiritual, contractual, or symbolic, and are the public ways to show reverence, gratitude, support/encouragement, love, connection to loved ones and/or Source, to mark time, and to make commitments. Simply put, ceremonies and rituals are the ways in which we hold sacred space for our beliefs, our loved ones, and ourselves.

Waistbeads are more than mere adornments for midriffs. Waistbeads become a sacred ritual object when chosen as a tool for mindfulness. When we set intentions upon a strand of waistbeads, the beads become ways to love, support, and commit to ourselves. The waistbeads then serve as a tangible symbol and gentle reminder of those commitments that we made. Not only do the beads cultivate mindfulness and intention through being seen and felt by us, but when we listen closely, the beads will speak our souls’ wants.

How can we incorporate ritual and ceremony with our waistbeads in an effort to create a sacred healing space for ourselves? Waistbeads are a very personal choice, and are chosen for a myriad of reasons. Thus, waistbead ceremonies will also be very personal and diverse. There is no one “correct” way to celebrate choosing to love yourself more deeply. However, there are some things that should be considered when creating a waistbead ceremony. It is suggested that four basic rituals be observed: grounding oneself, energetically cleansing the beads, speaking intentions into strands, and tying the beads on.

First, ground yourself at the onset of the ceremony. Grounding yourself means becoming present in the moment and clearing your mind, body, and spirit of any clutter that would interfere with your connection to the beads. Grounding can take the forms of mindful breathing, chanting, meditation, yoga, singing, dancing, etc. Next, energetically cleanse your beads using a cleansing method of your choice. Choosing to use the smoke from burned sage, palo santo, frankincense, etc. during the ceremony is a great way to not only clear away any unwanted energies that may have become attached to your beads, but it also is a beautiful ritual to witness that fills your sacred space with aromatherapy. Hold the beads in your hands, either one strand at a time or all at once, and pass them through the wafting smoke as many times as you want. Feel free to move the beads through the smoke 1-3 minutes. You can opt out of using smoke during the ceremony by cleansing your beads beforehand using sunlight, moonlight, earth, or crystals. These methods involve several hours of placing your beads in sunlight or moonlight, burying them in the ground, or placing them on cleansing crystals like quartz, obsidian, etc.

Then, speak your intentions into your beads. Your intentions are the thoughts, feelings, and actions you want to manifest in your life. You must be very clear on what you want to invite into your life and/or release from your life. (As the creator of your own destiny, it is important that you take time prior to the ceremony to reflect on your needs and desires.) At this point in the ceremony, it is time to give your waistbeads your intentions. Cradle your beads in your your hands, bring your cupped hands close to your mouth, and whisper your intentions to your beads. (You can choose to send your intentions to your beads in any mindful way. Find what resonates with you. Perhaps holding your beads in hand and meditating on your intentions works better for you.) Ask for exactly what you deserve; be open and ready to receive. If you have chosen multiple strands of beads to address different intentions, feel free to infuse the different intentions into the strands individually or group them together and infuse them simultaneously. Finally, tie your beads on, which permanently commits you to your new journey.

Another thing to consider when creating your waistbead ceremony is crafting a sacred space that suits you. Where will you have your ceremony? Indoors? Brightly or dimly lit? Outdoors? Daytime or nighttime? Will you play soothing music or let mother nature’s orchestra be your sound therapy? Perhaps silence feels best? What visuals will your incorporate in the ceremony? Crystals? Statues? Images of Source or ancestors? An alter? Special tapestries or cloths? A favorite color? A meaningful article of clothing? Be creative and be true to what brings you to your true essence.

Your ceremony can last 5 minutes or 50 minutes. You can celebrate alone, or in the company of others. You can celebrate your ceremony once, as it happens; or devote a day of re-connection every year on the anniversary of your ceremony. The key is to make your ceremony unique to you. Be as loving, gentle, grounded, focused, and open as you can to yourself and the process. Make your ceremony not only an expression of self-love, but a commitment of saying “I do” to all that the universe has awaiting you.

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Hi There! I am a Social Worker certified in Community Health. I currently write a blog concerning the social determinants of health that primarily affect Black Americans that are descended from American chattel slavery,

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